Sunday, October 7, 2018

MINIMALISM!

Today, I am going to write about a very important topic, which if we apply in our lives, we would not be idle and we will always have something to do and our lives would always be improving. It's called "MINIMALISM". Minimalism is same as the name suggests, minimizing things. Minimalism aims at minimizing things from your life which you don't need or are of no use. Reducing things from your life, decluttering things is what minimalism all about. 

                                                   
                                                        For example, let's consider your smartphone. You have lots of apps loaded on your phone. But are they all really useful? Do you use all of them more frequently? If not, then minimalism tells you to delete those apps. Declutter your phone and free it from any unwanted apps or even other stuff like photos, videos etc. that are no longer required. This way, your phone would be free from unwanted stuff and you will be left with more memory on your phone. 


                                                              Now let's consider your life. Remove the things that you do not use quite frequently, and that are just there because you have kept them. Buy things that are useful, keep digital notes if possible instead of paper ones so that it may be easier to carry them wherever you go and reduce your physical stuff, limit your wants etc. 


                                                              You can yourself figure out what more steps could be taken to apply minimalism in your life so that it remains decluttered and you make the most of it. Keep exploring!

Friday, September 21, 2018

LEARN TO ADJUST INTO SITUATIONS!

There will be some situations in life where we need some adjustment and some compromises to move along with them. Sometimes, these adjustments may be at a larger scale. Try to adjust in every situation, unless it is too extreme, but do not pressurize yourself. It's okay to make some compromises in your job or any other place where you frequently go to. Adjustment also makes us stronger to deal with the situations that are very challenging. 


                                                                                      Do not be afraid of what will happen if I do this, or will it turn into something bad if I keep on adjusting to this situation and keep on agreeing to the other person. It will all be fine. It will only make you better, and not deteriorate you. If you not at all feel like adjusting or adapting to those particular circumstances, you can back off from those and choose not to adjust to the same. Strategize your life according to your own plans and even if you fail, remember we have 26 letters in the alphabet range. If Plan A doesn't work, we have Plan B. 

                                                                                                                      Stay blessed always. 

Monday, September 17, 2018

WHEN GOING THROUGH HELL, DON'T STOP!

I am aware of what you are going through. I know there's pain in there, and you feel like this is the end. You feel like it is impossible to get out of the situation you are in. I am not gonna get out of this situation, I am stuck. But let me tell you, all this is temporary. However painful the situation is, however impossible it may seem to get out of it, it will surely get better. Because it is the law of nature. What goes down has to come up. Always remember these 4 words which are applicable in both good as well as bad times, THIS TOO SHALL PASS. 


                                                            Here are some phrases which you can say to yourself when you are depressed [By Sir Douglas Bloch (YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/user/healingdepression)


1. I can get better.
2. I am reaching out for help.
3. This too shall pass.
4. My strength is growing.
5. I am working on my courage.
6. I can bear this.
7. I have enough help.
8. Things are changing everyday.
9. I will encourage and turn towards my God nature.
10. I need to be more patient.
11. I feel horrible, but I know that's not the whole truth.
12. My feelings are not reliable indication of my reality.

                                                              Relax, stay calm, have patience and keep going. You don't know when it's gonna heal, but it surely will, because nothing is permanent, even if it feels like it will not get better. It's just a false feeling which is very normal at times of depression or anxiety. 


Friday, September 14, 2018

SELF CONVERSATION!

Self conversation is a very important tool for dealing with the situations in our life. Having a conversation with one self has a lot of importance and it is one of the very helpful techniques that one can apply while in a problem or depression. Talk to yourself just as you would talk to other people and make them understand and calm them down. 
                                    (BY DAVID JAMES LEES)                           


                                                                              Relax yourself and find out solutions to your problems by having a genuine conversation with yourself. Stick a picture of yourself on a board or make a picture of a boy or a girl and think that it is you and start talking to yourself. Make plans, ask yourself how would you deal with it. Question yourself. Do the same things as you would do to make other people solve their problems. Think as if a different person is standing in front of you and you are here to sort out their problems, or at least to give them an assurance that you don't have to worry, we love you. 



                                                                 This is how you would feel better and you will be relieved that if not anyone, someone is always there for you to listen to and help you out in your difficult times, and that would be YOU!

Saturday, September 8, 2018

Get ready for new things in life!

Saturday afternoon, what a day!! I am exited about my new job, and also about having new friends there. It will be a whole new experience for me. A new job, with a bunch of new friends with whom I will spend most of my day. Every new thing in life teaches us something. Every new opportunity or every new person that comes in our life teaches us something new. 


                                                                               You need to stand your ground, get ready for new things to come into your life, because accepting new things will not be easy sometimes. It takes us out of our comfort zone, which most of us don't like to be, but that's how it is. We need to step out of our comfort zone sometimes and  move ahead in life. It ain't easy, but that's okay. Just keep trying. Take help of your near and dear ones whom you love and they will support you. Don't be afraid, just fight with the problems and difficulties in your life. You can do it. Just have faith in yourself. It is possible, just go for it. Stay blessed.

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

LIVE LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT !

How's life? Is it going the way you want it to be? Well, it won't happen. Life goes on its own way. The roller coaster of life will have its own ascends and descends. Keep expectations, but be prepared for the expectations not getting fulfilled. Because expectations will not always be fulfilled. There may be some point in your life where you have to face tremendous difficulties, betrayals, you go into depression, you become upset and things like that. Always keep in mind that these things are normal. They are absolutely normal. And they are a part of life. Be prepared for all these things in your life because they are gonna come. But do not break down from all these circumstances.

                                                                    

                                                                 They all come into your life to teach you something. They are not here to bother you, or to prove you that you are a loser or you cannot do anything in life. They make you even stronger. They are there in your life to tell you that you are strong enough to deal with them and you have the potential to face them.



                                                                Just find out ways to deal with them, do it in your own ways, don't get obsessed with people around you talking against you or saying that you are doing it the wrong way. Just stay calm. Plan everything, handle one task at a time, and keep trying. DO NOT QUIT. Its not when you fail, you are a failure, but when you quit and stop trying, then you are a failure. Keep failing, keep rising up. Strategize your life, set some goals, live life the way you want and do not ever give up. Keep fighting with the problems and difficulties in your life.

Saturday, September 1, 2018

MEETING TREK FRIENDS AFTER A MONTH!

I started trekking around 5 to 6 years ago. There is a place very close to my place (I prefer not to reveal the name) which is a great trek spot and a sightseeing spot too. I have a group with which I go there for trekking mostly on weekends, and have a great time there. All my friends are elderly people, some more than 60 and 70 years, and they trek along with us with great enthusiasm and perseverance. They are some of the people I am inspired by and would like to have that type of physique when I reach their age. I met them accidently when one day I decided to trek alone, and when I started trekking there for the first time, I did not know the route. On the same day, they assisted me to reach the top, and asked me whether I would like to trek with them on a regular basis as they were the regular people for the trek. That day onwards, I started trekking with them quite regularly, and started to make trekking as my hobby. Some of my friends in that group also cycle along various places in India. They are very good cyclists. So cycling along them has also led me to make cycling as one of my hobbies. 




                              I had been busy working since one month and was not well since a few weeks. Hence was not able to join them for trekking. Today, I went for trekking after a month. But we did not really trek today. There was a felicitation session for our team members as they recently conquered a summit of 6,200 meters in the Himalayas. We had a lot of fun which included cake cutting and some sweets. It is an honor for me to be a part of such beautiful and nature loving people. 

LOVE.. A BEAUTIFUL FEELING....

Love is the most wonderful feeling in one's life. We are ready to do anything for the one whom we love, and I am not specifically pointing out the romantic love, any kind of love in which there is affection, a sense of care for each other, and a sense of belongingness. For instance, a mother loves her child unconditionally, friends show love for each other by helping each other in their tough times etc. One's love cannot be judged by his or her attire or physical looks, but it comes from inside. It is a tool that if we create among ourselves, we may not have any jealousy or hatred towards each other, instead we would love one another and have a sense of bonding and respect towards each other.



                                           Now talking about the romantic love. It is very different from the normal feeling of love. It has promises, commitments which need to be fulfilled, and a sense of physical attachment. We cannot see our love getting physically attached with anyone except with our selves, because it is the love between them that creates the feeling of being possessive. And this should be handled with immense care. We should find out what our partner likes and what he or she dislikes. We should understand him or her in every aspect and should know that how would he react in various situations. Getting to know each other is the first step in starting a relationship. Do love, but respect your partner's opinions, solve problems by mutual understanding, be with each other always, and most importantly, build a sense of trust towards each other. Think this in a little practical way, more than you think it in an emotional way. Being emotional in itself is a very peaceful feeling, but alongside you also need to be a little practical to make the relationship work awesome. Help your partner, and never make them feel alone. Assure them that you love them and you are always by their side. Correct them if they are wrong, but in a proper, manly manner. Work hard in maintaining a good relationship. 


Friday, August 31, 2018

STAY HAPPY ALWAYS....

Lets begin from where we left off. I was working at a well known corporate company (I would prefer not to reveal the name) with a good pay scale that every fresher would expect from his company. I joined the company in the month of SEPT, 2017. Everything was going good, I met new people, made some good friends and had fun there. But one fine day, my life turned it's way into a whole new path and I got a girl at my office whom I started loving. We were always with each other all the time and we used to stare at each other whenever we were facing each other. Our relationship was going awesome. But due to some reason, we had to break off. The reason was a genuine one and I knew it would not work any longer. 
                           
                                          After that, my office had become hell for me. I was not able to face that girl in any situation. I was depressed. After having too many counselling sessions from my dad (he is a good counselor), my friends, who supported me after my break off, I took a sigh of relief. I left my office and joined a new one (I had to). I started to forget her little by little (don't want to but have to) and then, its today that I am writing my story with an enthusiastic me, a fresh me. But she is a very good person in herself. God bless her always and keep her happy!



                       
                          So life is always full of challenges. The thoughts we think, or the action we take during this challenging phase decides what will be the outcome and when we are going to get out of the problem we are in. See, we always have to keep sharpening our axe, always have to be aware of ourselves and our actions. And challenges and failures are a part of our life, and are very important. And you are not the only one who is facing this kind of situation in your life. There are hundreds of people out there who are in the same or even worse situation than you are currently facing. So don't be surprised looking at so many problems in your life. Keep calm and try to deal with them. Try to deal with every  single situation you face in your life, because you can do it, and you can make your life better. Just strategize things, make plans, take one step at a time (there's no harm in doing so) and work slowly, it's okay. And always remember, this is damn true, you are very special. Really, I mean it. Have a conversation with yourself as you would talk to and advise a different person who needs your help. Always stay in touch with yourself. I could talk about this for hours, but lets pause this conversation for now and let us all concentrate on making ourselves a better person than we were before and let us not regret, but learn from our past mistakes and experiences. Stay calm, stay happy,  always!

Thursday, August 30, 2018

GETTING ALONG....

I am 22. I have completed my graduation course and now am into a job, and a very happy person now. I faced many difficulties during my graduation days and at my office. I will get back to that later, for sure, but now, lets learn something about the journey called life (don't worry this ain't boring ;p).
            
                     Life itself is a very unique word, something which defines how a journey full of ups and downs is meant to be. When we begin this journey, we are not aware of the surroundings around us. We are even not aware of ourselves. So this journey takes you to a different level of living with thrills and chills getting down your spine. We will laugh, we will cry, and will experience every kind of feeling in this journey. 
                            
                      This was a basic introduction of what life is about. I will define it very simply, not make it too complicated, because it is really not complicated. Getting along with it and enjoying and experiencing life now. Stay tuned....

LETS BEGIN THE JOURNEY...

Hi,

Suraj here. This is my first blog post. I will be posting instances of my life and what I learnt all through my life and teach you how to live life the way you want it. I am not professionally a speaker, but my life experiences could help you with an inspiration and a motivation to live your life in a fun way and deal with all the problems and difficulties (which are a part of life).  I will be posting interesting stuff, and also how I deal with all those, so that it could be a helping hand for you and for your daily living.